Coyote’s Transformation

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt

The Perfect Lovers - Coyote's Transformation

Taking Responsibility

The tension was primed
Like a pimple to pop
Sounds echoed
As the coyote was hit
Falling by the roadside
And when approached
He ran off to lick his wounds
Preparing for his own transformation
As the life force was taken out

“There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you.”
― J.K. Rowling

Voice of Wisdom
Reflecting on the past – HE remembered that once upon a time HE was in a car accident and HE believed HE would die. HE asked someone nearby to hold his hand for HE didn’t want to die alone…..and wanted more time so HE could begin to live out more of his potential.

Reflecting on the present – HE had been going through a bout of heartburn for months which was affecting his throat and had inquired what might be the source of his problem for he was very concerned. One day he said in a joking manner…”Ha, Ha…you can’t read me – I’ve figured it out on my own. Guess what the problem was? I’ll tell you. It happens after I eat, when I turn myself upside down and do bicycling exercises, that’s when the problem starts!

Shortly before this realization of his own health, HE had the experience of trying to help a coyote who really didn’t want his help. To be involved or see (in some shape or form) the death of a animal that is considered a “totem” can bring some aspect of one’s life into focus. Coyote’s energy is linked to a “trickster” with a teaching of how wisdom and folly can go hand-in-hand and to be ready for a curve ball being thrown in your direction to help you work through what you need to work through. Coyote is about trust and gives the ability to see through illusions.

HE was so upset no one was stopping to help the wounded animal that had been hit. The woman who had hit the animal had stopped but she was fearful to go close. HE was beside himself on the best way to help and when HE got close to the animal, the animal immediately moved off to another location. HE drove off to get some help from authorities but when HE returned empty handed the animal had died. All the effort HE put forth was to no avail as it appeared the animal did not want his assistance.

HE finally realized how the incident related to some things going on in his own life. For instance, HE would go out of his way to help people in order to boost himself up and now might question…. who is really going to benefit from the giving and why?

There is a Grimm’s fairy tale about how too much giving weakens. It is called The Princess and the Frog. It is a fairy tale about a spoiled princess who lives with her father who takes care of all her needs and she proceeds to meet up with a frog who creates some tension in her life. Because she is living with her father the king, all her needs and more are taken care of and she has become quite passive and spoiled. Tension starts to build with the frog where she eventually she has to summon up all her power in order to throw him against the wall. Her new found strength and the splattering of his body help both of them transform. HE becomes a prince wh is a little more laid back and SHE becomes a woman of strength and substance, no longer dependent on Daddy. The fact of the matter is that when everything is given to someone they can become lazy, spoiled and laid back…never getting around to developing themselves or coming into their own power or potential. The princess grows up becoming a woman and and marries the prince to live happily ever after.

When people are overly coddled, with their every need taken care of, or assisted such as in welfare, a tendency can be to lay back and expect others or big daddy to provide or do the work. This sets the stage where they don’t reach their full potential. In intimacy, many men bend over backwards to give to their women in bedroom and then wonder why the woman is so laid back and never takes the initiative or interest to work on them.

“Some people look as if they have lost their eagerness and passion. Their aspiration seems to be exhausted and fresh inspiration has abandoned their weary mind. Life has boundlessly given them material welfare, which has fully spoiled them in the end. No energy for longing has been left, as they have reached a twilight zone. The twilight of desire. ( “Twilight of desire” ) ― Erik Pevernagie

To Trust in Love Again?

For SHE had once walked out the door

The Perfect Lovers - Out The Door

Casual or superficial sex is tailor-made
To suit up the man unable to commit
Where emotions were frozen and ignored
When his mother left him as a child

Walking out the door
Rejected
Vine-like swollen veins
With squashed feelings of fears

Relating to Abandonment

Where HE would ever able
To allow himself
To love and be loved
And even if HE could
It might just not feel right
Perhaps used in an act or game of play
For really
How could HE ever trust love
Or his lover or mother to stay

If HE could develop that love, commitment and loyalty
That his mother never showed

HE might cast aside abandonment issues
No more casual or superficial sex
Or meaningless acts of lust
Nor the continual testing of a lover’s unconditional love

For HE would find himself trusting and riding on the currents of love

The Voice of Wisdom

I suppose there must be benefits to living a half-hearted life, where you don’t give it your all – where you skip around on the surface of a shallow, superficial pond simply because of the fears about diving down into the heart of the ocean at the deepest level of relationships, where you will find yourself nurturing and receive nurturing in the currents of profound love.

So many people are frightened of relationships. Yet I see them as something to appreciate and value with time, care, honor and respect. How we treat each other, our bodies, plants, animals and Mother Earth has become downtrodden into a casual affair.

A relationship ideally holds a strong comfort level where the basic needs, coping mechanisms, and emotional reactions between the two people will be similar. It will be a place where two people easily open up to each other and bring out their issues from the darkness into the light. It is a schoolhouse to learn and to share with giving and receiving which helps the process of merging and releasing ego and separate individualities. I feel the highest level of experience in a relationship is allowing our own symbolic death through the merging with the another.

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Blue Balls

“Thrift is poetic because it is creative; waste is unpoetic because it is waste.”
― G.K. Chesterton, What’s Wrong with the World

The Perfect Lovers - Blue Balls

As a youngster HE used to play with himself
Stroking his penis between his legs
It felt so good
As the tension built

When HE turned 18
His mother came into his room
To demonstrate on him
The ejaculation process

But to this day
HE prefers the childhood way
Of stroking and building
Without release

The Voice of Wisdom

HE never experienced any pain with the build up of pressure and tension. Nor did HE feel a painful, dull aching sensation in the testicular region following his sexual arousal without climax, but HE did experience enlarged balls.

“Blue balls is a slang term for the condition of temporary fluid congestion (vasocongestion) in the testicles accompanied by testicular pain, caused by prolonged sexual arousal in the human male without ejaculation. The term is thought to have originated in the United States, first appearing in 1916. Some urologists call the condition “epididymal hypertension”. The condition is not experienced by all males.” Wikipedia

The Taoists describe the importance of not ejaculating in the Discourse on the Highest Tao Under Heaven:
“If a man has intercourse without spilling his seed, his vital essence is strengthened. If he does this twice, his hearing and vision are made clear. If three times, all his physical illness will disappear. The fourth time he will begin to feel inner peace. The fifth time his blood will circulate powerfully.The sixth time his genitals will gain new prowess. By the seventh his thighs and buttocks will become firm. The eighth time his body will radiate good health. The ninth time his life span will be increased.”

The Reflection

The Perfect Lovers - The Reflection

He says:
Imaginations and fantasies can be nice,
But my problem with love
Is that it is not always here when I want it,
Seldom actually,
Unless
I create it for and as myself.

The Voice of Wisdom responds:
If your current belief system has led you to a problem with love, why carry and continue to program your mind with that same mind set that brought you to the place where you are now. If you are surrounded by a problem and not where you want to be, question your beliefs and the deeper meanings they have for you and change your beliefs.

Your outer world is a reflection of that which you hold within. Your external world is like a projection screen showing everything that is coming out from inside you. You have made, or you are seeing, or you have attracted an environment that reflects your inner world.

Three layers of understanding
1. BASIC – That which we know and are familiar with inside we recognize it easily when we see it on the outside.
2. INTERMEDIATE – This relates to the concept of creating your own reality of who you are. Like an energy signature artist Picasso imprinted his artwork which got reflected and repeated over and over again until he changed his vibration and style.
3. ADVANCED – There is the One Being of all of existence. A Creator who is creating the world, where “We” are a part of it all – a part of the One – with all facets or fractiles of the self reflecting, yet believing we are unique and separate from the rest. If you zoom out with your binoculars you would see All that is and the Oneness of it all being displayed with the Others each reflecting mirrors.

Troubled Waters

The Perfect Lovers - Bridge Over Troubled Waters

He calls out over the troubled, rumbling waters….
Love is precarious and dangerous
Some will chase it their entire lives
Yet others flee from it, frightened half to death

As my gigantic helium balloon floats above my head
I fill it with my dreams
Full of awe, tension, and hope
Imagined ideas and intimate desires
Which I believe led me into troubled waters

Ahhh to reach the bridge
For skill and understanding
To maneuver communications to heal
But so many things are left unsaid …

For example, to be directive and specific
Is easier said than done
Especially when the source point needs to be cleared
So that I might no longer be controlled
Through my self-judgment, guilt, fears, even addiction to energies

Let the Oneness Spring from Nothingness

Adam

The Voice of Wisdom

It has been said that some chase love their entire lives, even throughout lifetimes searching in many places – but the search is always outside the self and never within. If you can unite with a new found beloved inside yourself (as the Anima or Animus that Carl Jung made famous) you will be filled with an inner love, so much so that this inner love will then overflow like a fountain out into the outer world and spray unto others. You will then not have to chase around looking for it, for it will be within.

That gigantic helium balloon of imagination floating above your head can create the space for your own inner lover to unfold and manifest. What is an artist without an imagination. Develop your ability to see, feel and communicate with them internally. Your mind is creative. Fantasize and don’t be shy to share all your intimate desires with them! Like an artist creating a visual masterpiece, these powerful repeated dreams and fantasies will at one point manifest themselves magically in your inner and outer world.

Programming yourself with an inner lover is the most positive, productive thing you can do for healing because unconscious limiting beliefs that you hold about love may then begin to change, which makes your behavior change and ultimately your reality will also change. Be directive and specific in your communications with your inner lover by going to your own Garden of Eden in order to dialogue and listen, never forgetting to share love and emotions for that is what will give the impact for bonding and it will turn a simple intellectual experience into something much more powerful.

Many people are unconscious about how they create their reality and therefore processing is important. Food for thought holds… that in the beginning there was Oneness but by partaking of the tree of the good and evil, a tension developed within and without. This tension of polarity (good/evil) created conflict and chaos – with inside thoughts and body problems being reflecting back out into the world in wars of conflict. The tree in the garden was a poison. Go back and heal the internal conflict that developed at that time. Go back to when you felt as one, in harmony and filled with light, always remembering to be careful – for when you become divided you will be filled with darkness and troubled waters.

From The Tree of Good and Evil

Duality and Tension Arrive
The Perfect Lovers - From The Tree

He placed his hands on his chest
For the tight congestion
Had him unable to find, un-knot or freely express
Tangled tunes
Of his Singularity Song of Oneness

Longing to sing the Peace
That hides deep within
Where there is no conflict, war or tension
Just a grassy field of Love needing to live in harmony and lie Undivided

A magical kingdom rests upon the earth
An field of energy
But most cannot see, feel or hear it
For they are tangled up within the tensions of duality
Unable to enter undivided love

The Voice of Wisdom
When the tree of the good and evil threw down it’s shadow of duality the sensitive lover fell in a heap of despair for he was unable to express the feelings of his heart’s orchestra to his lover. He had been born into a family with love that had been jumbled and tangled up in knots and the condition remained to this day passed down from the tree of the duality of good and evil.

All have inherited some type of duality, tension or chaos that rests inside in one form or another. Most live in a sea of suffering and don’t know how to escape. The solution of how to climb out of that sticky spider’s web is releasing identification with duality/tension/chaos as your reality – instead choose to live in a field of love and harmony.

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